Yes, Valentines Day is for love. It is traditionally thought of as a day when love is expressed to either a significant other or to simply those closest to you. It is a time when appreciation, thoughtfulness and simple love are in order. Children give Valentines Cards in school along with cupcakes or candy. Mothers make something special for their little ones and husbands and wives try to remember to do something special for each other. Some give extravagant gifts and others do nothing and wonder why there is another holiday to spend money.
There will be lots of Valentine Cards, flowers, chocolates, little gifts of jewelry and other things given this year. May we make a suggestion to you? Make it personal. You know your loved one and know whether a simple card will do or whether a certain type of gift would be appreciated and maybe even expected.
Some of you may not be able to buy anything this year but that does not mean that you should simply skip it. You could do some cooking or baking that is special. Yes, guys, you can get into the kitchen too. There is nothing quite as romantic as seeing your guy do something special for you. You can make your own card. You can write out some IOU’s for something special that you know would make your significant other feel loved. I know I would love a good foot massage or back massage at the end of the day. If I had someone to go warm my car on a cold day before I got in it, that would be special. There are lots of young mothers who would love to take a hot bubble bath with some lighted scented candles nearby to soak away the stresses of the day. To have someone watch the kids so she could truly relax, do you know how much that could mean?
There are lots of guys who have hobbies that their wives don’t share. Although some of them really don’t want their wives around when they are golfing, fishing, hiking, etc. Others do. So Ladies, find something that your significant other enjoys that he would like you to participate in. My Dad loved to fish but my Mom loved to paint. She went with him and quietly made sketches of the scenery while he fished. They were able to enjoy their time together even though they liked different hobbies. You can always find a way to just make some special memories.
Now of course, if you can afford a little gift to give as well, that would be the icing on the cake. We have each looked at some things that you might want to consider for her… some things to consider for him and also for couples to give to each other.
Never take your special one for granted. One wife asked her husband: “Why don’t you ever tell me that you love me?” He responded with: “I told you once. If I ever change my mind, I will let you know.” Now that story came from a marriage counselor. Can you imagine why they were there?
Even though romance seems to be the main idea for Valentine’s Day, the object of your valentine does not need to be romantic. Shouldn’t we be celebrating every single day when we have someone to love? No matter who that person is, husband, wife, girlfriend, boyfriend, son, daughter, parent, grandparent, or just a close friend, don’t you think that we should appreciate them on a daily basis? Sometimes, we take for granted what we have and Valentine’s Day is a good opportunity to change that way of thinking. In my family, it has been a tradition to give a little something for each member of the family. It might be a small piece of chocolate candy. It doesn’t matter what the gift is, but rather what it represents, means, and says… that those people are special to you and you are thankful that they are in your life. Maybe you should start a new tradition of being mindful of those people in your life who do truly make a difference to you. You won’t regret it.